You not understand; they do not say what they really feel. Men are logical, women not logical. You make mistake because you expect a woman to react as a man would react. Men are men. Women are women.
Gurdjieff constantly reminded us, in all sorts of ways, that ‘dabbel is also necessary’, but that we must not remain passive and allow ourselves to be the slave of our denying part, our negative emotions. He said that we must not become the slave of our passive part as represented by a woman. A man should not be dominated by a wife or a mistress.